Marriage Therapy: Does it Work to Save a Marriage

Marriage Therapy: Does it Work to Save a Marriage

Most people consider marriage therapy as a last resort in saving their marriage. There are others still who think if the situation is so bad that they need to go for marriage therapy then they might as well get divorced because there is no hope for their relationship. Both of these views are wrong. If your marriage needs therapy, get it as soon as possible. It is understandable that you and/or your spouse may feel apprehensive about the idea of marriage therapy because nobody wants to open up about their problems to a stranger. There may be unpleasantness and accusations from both of you, and you don’t want that to happen. But the truth of the matter is, even considering going for marital therapy is progress in itself. And sometimes, the third person, i.e. the counsellor can help the two of you understand each other and give unbiased judgment and advice which will be otherwise unavailable to you.

Why should you give it a try?

Whether marriage therapy really works or not is a controversial issue. It is subjective and depends on many factors. For example, if you drag your spouse to marriage therapy against their will, then there is a big chance of the therapy not working because your spouse would be determined not to let it work, even if just to prove a point. Marriage therapy works in most cases but not all. There are a few factors on which its failure or success depends; but ultimately it is up to you and your spouse to make your marriage work, the therapist can do only so much.

  • The willingness of the couple to work things out. If both of you want things to get better, then they would. If one half of the couple is bent on getting a divorce, then there is no hope for the relationship.
  • Love for each other matters too. If the couple still has a love for each other, marriage therapy will help them work out their problems.
  • Patience and perseverance are needed for marriage therapy to succeed. Both you and your spouse have to be committed to give your best shot and not give up.
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